Time for the sex talk?

Hmm I think it is time for this talk. Yet this is not what you may think. I am not here to talk about reasons to have sex or tell you not to. Tonight I write about the place in out mind we hold sex. I believe it may be somewhat the same for everyone. Not some may think sex is great because the feeling, the passion, the connection or just the lable, while others may think its aweful. Most of the people who don't like sex have either never experienced it or they think that way becuase of religion. Now don't get me wrong, We all have different thoughts and morals. However this blog is aimed more for the ones who have had sex or the open minded people. For I am not writing just about sex, I am also writing about Love. Now you may be thinking, Oh we get the blah blah sex and love dont go together blah blah talk all the time. However this is not one of those talks.

Where does sex and love come together and when should they be apart? Most relationships include sex, right? Now some people say that sex is not all you should think about in a relationship and they are right. I mean you should be close to your boyfriend/girlfriend, Husband or wife in many other ways. Yet for people to say that wanting sex in a moment that may not be "Right" is against loving someone, I see this as an excuse. You see, as a teenager I get to here the "All they want is sex" talk all the time. Yes I can admit that men do want sex often, but why blame someone for wanting a good feeling? I think that the reason behind the sex is where you must judge from. If you met a guy or girl at a bar and find yourself wanting them after a few drinks, that might just be sex and thats it. Now if you spent some time with a girl and got to the dating (or close) status, then I think a little intimate moment is alright. Now if you guys have a good dinner and movie just to return to the house and cuddle. Things might get a little heated. Now girls dont be offended by this, and guys dont be mad if the girl rejects you. I think we must understand both sides of the coin however. You see for guys, Our mantality may take over a little and we desire a girl. Yet another reason is that we just want to be closer in some way and sex is a good one. We are no longer doing it for the feeling, but rather for the sense of holding her close and enjoying her presence. Now for girl, they do have feelings to. A girl may deny you or accept. I have noticed that this is based on a little talking and their feelings that night. You see a girl might be having her time of the cycle or just be in a crabby attitude. They could also just want a night off and not be having the same idea as you. Women also seem to have a greater range of reasons not to, Cramps, Sore, Tired, Not wanting it in the same hole that you want to put it in, Still awake, Didn't spend enough time at the bar, or just doesnt feel like its right. However the reason does not matter. This is the moment in when you find if you love someone or not. If the girl or guy says no, Base your actions on how you feel. Now if you are extremely horny then you might want to try a little talking, If that fails then give up. But if you are just there for that reason and you know it, he/she may not be the one for you. If you are willing to give the offer through action or words and get rejected, understand your loss. Pull your loved one in close and kiss them on the cheek. Close your eyes and hope you have better luck next time. You see your own satisfaction is not more important than the one feelings of the one laying next to you. 

I think that about sums it up for the differences in feelings on love and sex. I am stopping now mainy because I am really really tired and must rest. However this can go on and on, So if you wish to talk or have a healthy discussion about it then comment me. You can also reach me on my myspace. Have a good night everyone. Please comment.